'She was standing at the street lights, ready to cross the road, making sure her hair still looked lustrous and pleasing. The dress colour today was black: jacket, sweater, tights, and boots, what an eye of a stranger could see. No skirt.' This can be assumed to be a descriptive from a novel. In truth, this was my morning observation of a Modern Woman. I could not help, but noticed that the skirts and even hot pans already not in high fashion. It is amazing how from past centuries a woman's dress had evolve at last: no dress, really. We can never assume that God had used evolution to create this world, too many inconsistencies present, but that is a different topic. While vogue changes back and forth, there are certain things that remain; a Woman's heart is just the same, desperate to be loved, appreciated, needed. So let's talk not only about fashion, but about what really matters.
I was in Psalm 20 for my
Devotions, here some of the verses:
May the LORD answer you in the
day of trouble!
May he grant you your heart's
desire
and fulfill all your
plans!..
He will
answer him from his holy heaven
with the saving might of
his right hand.
Some trust in chariots and
some in horses,
but we trust in the name
of the LORD our God.
They collapse and fall,
but we rise and stand
upright...
My observation made me to come up with my own verse:
'Some trust in naked legs, fashion, advise of a friend or
a young age,
A woman displays herself
as on a cabaret stage,
Will she be in old age
honoured, respected or joyful
Will she leave a legacy for the
youthful to follow her?'
Let me explain what I mean.
While I would like to talk about many things that concern women, it must be
very generic since everybody's circumstances are very unique and different from
each other. But it is a good thing for us women to chat about these issues and
get armed the best way they can. I do it by relying on the Lord's guidance and
His infinite wisdom, for others, who don't know the Lord yet; it is just plain
common sense to start with. What is interesting no matter how hard we women,
including Christian one's, try at times to exclude God from our circumstances,
it can't be helped, but everything revolves around Him. It is up to us thought
to willingly bring Him in or distance ourselves even further.
Now when we live a smaller
town, people are, more open about things, they have time to be friendly which
is hard to imagine living in a big city. In one single day I've heard both of
these stories from strangers.
One of the mothers's told me her war story. She was married to a
man with whom they had five children. One day, he packed his bags in front of
the four children, while his wife with a bump number five and face full
of astonishment had watched him too. Not thinking
that explaining was due, he walked out on them to a life of 'freedom
and no more responsibility.' Oh yes, they were moving houses at the time. She
often mentions how difficult it is for her to manage all these growing
children. To her knowledge he has dumped two more women since, not getting
their divorce papers yet. Why any Woman would desire such a man?
Apparently he could be charm itself. This tells me that while a Woman worries
about fashion things (a lady with a new born is willing to drive to another
city to get her nails done!), her abilities to access another human are raw and
naive. If any of those following women had done a background check on this man,
his charm could disappear as a vapour. I'm convinced.
Later on in a day, when I was
at the 'Mother & toddler group', one of the grandma's was sharing with me
about her daughter. 'Yes, my daughter and her husband knew each other from
school. They went through University together. Got married. Had two children
and he cheated on her after she had the second baby. When the family broke
down, I had both boys all the time. It was dreadful.'
Even though God created Woman
ultimately a powerful being with such soft skin, beautiful shape,
unmistakable aroma about her, gorgeous hair, sharp brain, she lacks
wisdom at times, because it wasn't part of the package. It has to be obtained
from the Lord. (I take bee pollen when I can. It is one of the most complete
food on the planet, especially beneficial for women. The body doesn't produce
it, flowers do.) We only could remember Eve or Sarah to get a visual picture.
Both of them had such power over some of the most powerful men, Adam and
Abraham who did exactly what these women asked them to. Because of lack of
wisdom and patience from the Lord tremendous consequences followed for the rest
of humanity. Eve asked Adam to eat from the forbidden fruit, while Sarah asked
her husband to lie with their servant girl. So is the actions of a Modern Woman
are significant today, whatever she does, whatever she says.
Today a Modern Woman often
feels that she has to expose everything she posses to-trap- any- man- who-
comes- around- quick scenario. No expectations, no ideals, no character - just
claim your own! (Tom Cruise comes to mind. That man is probably is the highest
paid actor on the planet earth. He appears so desirable to any woman, but if
she knows that he intends on leaving double D&D 'divorced &
devastated', is he worth it?) Once a Woman got her man in her grip, she starts
complaining: you are not worth anything, you don't know me, you can't possibly
understand me, you don't value me, why do you attend a church of Scientology?
Often it is rightly true because a Woman does not consult God or time or even
their parents when choosing the husband. Jane Austine's 'Pride
and Prejudice' comes to mind where Lydia boasts to her sisters: 'If we all
went to Brighton, I could of find you each a husband.' And wisely Lizzie
replies: 'I don't like your way of getting a husband.' Poor Lydia wasn't even
aware that she nearly missed the marriage all together.
When we bake a cake, it is best
to use the recipe. The problem I had, I wanted to invent a healthier version.
So I thought if I put a lot of blended pineapple and
raspberries, I would be able to enjoy a good cake and antioxidants as the
same time. Bingo! I didn't follow a proven recipe, so my cake was flat as a
pancake! Naturally I was disappointed and wasted time, money and effort
while my family had to go without home made healthy cakes at the time. Oh, my
eggs from the farm, or my precious honey, or my raspberries… So frustrating.
So the same is true with the
marriage. A Woman wishes to get married. She has to follow a God established
recipe using wisdom, relying on God's timing and choice of man. It will never
go wrong, but when it appears that something has gone wrong, woman always could
go back and remember that it was a God thing and what God does is always
perfect. Falling back on the truth could revive not only memory, but dead
relationships just as much. Didn't God brought to life Lazarus who was dead for
nearly four days? Jesus was their close friend, but even this family could
hardly believe. No wonder we often don't believe ourselves it is possible. The
reality is success will be guaranteed whether 'she
marries or not, when a woman follows the Lord.'
The best way would be 'to cover
yourself in every aspect with much heavenly wisdom' in order to make a man have
a desire to get to know you, to make an effort, to sweat a bit. He
has to make an effort and if he doesn't, he probably won't make any effort
after the marriage. Who ever appreciated a diamond that doesn't cost
anything? Modern girls expose themselves by saying: there is nothing
mysterious about me, there is nothing unique, don't look for depth, it wont
cost you anything to lure me in your arms, ect. A good advise would be here to
declutter her thinking wardrobe by asking yourself: 'Will I seem hard as a
diamond to get in this outfit/actions?' Such a response is possible after profound
impression of the Holy Spirit upon Woman's heart. Your immediate response could be: 'This
way I will never get married. Oh, you will, you will.' To a good- Godly-
faithful man! After all God isn't a liar: 'He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up
for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things? Romans 8:32.
Of
course, if it is according to His will, but who wants it otherwise?
Many women today are trying to have a baby from a man they are with, thinking
it will somehow glue them together forever. In truth, the only glue that there
is in this Universe that binds together, is God's unmerited Grace. Children are
not to be experimented with; they need to be in a
safe environment with both mum and dad. All most significant people,
including women committed terrible mistakes at some point or the
other, but God brought them through because they relied on Him in the
end.
All relationships that we have
as humans are only successful when 'each person thinks less about himself, more
about others for start.' This is impossible without unconditional love of God
in our hearts. And even then we must pray daily for refill. If we exclude God,
the main ingredient from our cake- baking-marriage-any-relationships-making
experience, expect it to go wrong. Family that involves so many people is far
more complex structure than a mere cake!
Once Adam and Eve had left the
Paradise, they no longer understood and related to each other Perfectly. Just
as God intervened with their coverings, He will have to do so to the rest of
their lives. Eve didn't not have a faintest idea that she will bear the son,
the first ever murderer. They had never experienced death before. Neither did
she know how to handle it. The same is true for us. Our life is a mystery, the
future is veiled and only God know how to fight Satan off, how to prepare us to
enter unknown future and all the bumps in the road ahead. We need his Grace and
His presence daily. Just like it was in the Paradise days.
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